Dear Future Husband

We tend to think that life happens to us, but on the contrary we are taught that our current existence mirrors our deep thoughts. So why not think and speak your dream partner into existence?

When one of my favourite musicians, Megan Trainor released her hit single, Dear future husband, in 2015 not only did I relate to the words of the song but it made me realise the things I have decided to not settle for in any relationship, especially a romantic one. Many women (and men) dream of being happily married and raising families in secured homes. For a lot of us whose hearts have been broken countless times the idea of finding true love feels unlikely, but it’s more sad when we allow ourselves to settle for crappy relationships because of hopelessness. If we believe in praying or speaking our desires into existence, why should good relationships and marriages be an exception? I had stopped believing in love, until I met a great friend who has been happily married for more than ten years. Her story really inspired me and she advised I snap out of resentment and look forward to what God has in store for me, if I believed. So, I have been on a mission to learn to believe in love again and this is how I having been speaking my future husband into existence:

• I have been praying to God to heal me from my painful past with my exes: I really feel that it takes a big personality to forgive someone for hurting you, especially if you trusted and loved them. And although I know that grudges hurt only me, it hasn’t been easy to forgive. Every day I pray for strength to really let go and use my past experiences as teachers of what I am not prepared to settle for.
• I have been writing the qualities I want in a man and have spoken them aloud everyday: Although we have different expectations of what our ideal partners should be like, I think the common qualities we all want are  having people who genuinely love and care for us. Those are the two I am willing to share (for now).
• I have been trusting the Universe/ God with the details: I have stopped looking at what others have and have started appreciating and loving myself more. I do things for myself that I thought were not possible to do without a partner, like going out and having a great time- solo. I have also learned that God’s timing is the perfect timing. So, no pressure on my side.

Love is a beautiful thing and it really took me a while to believe in it again. Yes, I speak my dear, future husband into existence every day but never had I enjoyed life and the blessings always receive more than I do now. Only time will tell when he will come into my life, and when he does, dear friend, I will let you in my wedding plans!

Do you speak your ideal partner into existence? How has it been?