What To Do If You Love Everything Else About Your Job Except Your Boss
There are different challenges one has when it comes to their career, but what happens if you hate your boss? Here are tips to get you by
Youth unemployment statistics are rife not only in South Africa but the world over. With that said many people stay in jobs that pose a lot of challenges, such as office politics, favouritism and bullying that stifle growth and leaving employees discouraged and demotivated. And with Covid-19 shrinking a lot of job opportunities, leaving a job without security is not an option. What happens then if you love your job but can’t stand the sight of your boss? It’s not an easy experience to go through but what’s a girl (and boy) to do when she has bills to pay? I remember one of my previous jobs where my manager always critiqued everything I did and called in meetings every chance she got. This was three months into my job, (after obtaining my BA qualification may I add, which was when the problem really started). I loved my job but my boss was my biggest headache and I eventually felt discouraged. What’s worse, I was always sick and depressed and I knew that the only way to survive that situation was by resigning, without knowing when the next job opportunity would come. Nevertheless, there is more you can do than just resign. Here’s how to handle a boss you think is siblings with Miranda Priestly (from the 2006 movie, The Devil Wears Prada)
Don’t take it personally: That’s a hard pill to swallow considering that you spend almost the whole day in the presence of your boss every day. But instead of being tense and defensive investigate if your boss is too harsh on you or whether it’s their management style. Whatever outcome you find, do your best to be as professional as you can and focus on why you are at work. If their criticisms or feedbacks are not constructive try to find a second opinion about your work performance.
Learn the art of communication: It’s tempting to retaliate and give your boss a piece of your mind, but remember that they can damage your career and make your work life a nightmare. Master your body language and tone when you communicate with them and always document your encounter in writing, either through an e-mail or in your notebook.
Have that friend on speed dial: It sometimes helps to blow off steam with someone you trust, especially outside your place of work. If things really go that bad make that call and talk to someone about it instead of allowing the situation mess up your day. Since walls have ears, make sure your calls are as far away from the office as possible.
Try to empathise: Your boss might be battling challenges you may not know of, such as family feuds or feeling the pressure of keeping the company afloat. Not that personal problems should be a reason for anyone to abuse or bully others in the workplace, who also have their own issues to deal with, but don’t make the mistake of taking the blame for anyone else’s behaviour.
Maybe it’s greener on the other side: Some experiences may mean it’s time to move on. Always search for better opportunities that will help reach you your career goals.
Have you had a terrible boss? How did you deal with it? Share in the comments below.