Being single doesn’t have to be a lonely and dull experience. Instead, use this phase of your life to rediscover the version of yourself you want to be. Here’s how, according to Tracee Ellis Ross
Now that Valentine’s Day is done and dusted, let’s get to serious business. Hands up if you have been or know someone who is in a bad relationship because they fear being single. There is so much sadness and even negativity attached to being single, but did you know single people are generally more happy, according to Psychology Today? Many celebrities, such as Emma Watson (who coined the term self-partnered), Mindy Kaling, Tracee Ellis Ross and and Charlize Theron, are currently reported to be single. There are many reasons people are or choose to be single, but whatever the reason, make the most of it with tips from Tracee Ellis Ross.
The key is to feel whole:
In one of her cover interviews for Shape Magazine, Ross said, “People can be in wonderful relationships but can’t actually reap the joy of that connection. Because you can have all the good stuff, but if you don’t know how to be with it, it doesn’t matter. I realize that I hold the idea of wholeness with great reverence and respect because my goal is to have an experience with myself that is whole.” She has even frowned upon social pressure on women to be married and have kids, saying to People Magazine: “Our society spoon-feeds it to you,” the Blackish star said. “I used to put myself to sleep dreaming of my wedding.”
READ MORE: 5 Things To Give Up To Live A Fulfilling And Happy Life
The American actress, producer and businesswoman affirms she is happily single but open to being in a relationship. She adds, “In my wonderful and robust experience of being single, I have learned to have a productive relationship with loneliness and an intensely juicy relationship with my joyful solitude — I really enjoy my company. One of the things that’s been lovely to discover is how I care for myself and how I actively love myself. And I believe that love is an action: You get back what you put in.”
She added to Marie Claire Magazine: “People misinterpret being happily single as not wanting to be in a relationship. Of course I want to be in a relationship, but what am I going to do? Spend all the time that I’m not [in one] moping around?” Ross argued. “No. I’m going to live my life to the fullest and I’m going to be happy right here, where I am.”
How do you make the most of being single?