There is nothing worse than being your worse enemy, especially without knowing it. Below are signs you are sabotaging yourself and why you need to change it.
Life can be hard enough with others trying to bring you down. The last thing you need is to allow internal voices to hinder you from tapping into the great person you are meant to be. It all begins with self-esteem. If you don’t like the person you see in the mirror it can be hard loving and being happy for other people. Hurting yourself affects only you and no one else. If you tick the following boxes this is how you can change it:
You let fear get in the way: Have you found yourself too scared to speak up or follow your dreams because you fear the unknown or what others will say? You are denying yourself your full potential or happiness. Allowing fear to control your actions will bring you down and drive other people away.
What to do: List the goals you really want to achieve and the things that truly make you happy. Do one thing each day that will help you reach your goals bearing in mind that you will meet challenges along the way. Ask yourself the worse that could happen if you stand up for yourself or try to fulfill your dream, chances are you will lose people that hinder you from the life you are meant to live, which is a good thing.
You are jealous of what others have: The quickest way to nurture jealousy is to always compare yourself to other people. There is nothing wrong with using your peer’s achievements as reference or inspiration, but if you use them as something to measure your life you are heading to personal disaster.
What to do: Be happy for others. Seriously. Exuding positive energy, especially towards others brings positive things to your own life. Start appreciating the milestones you achieve, no matter how small they are. Believe that your season is also coming, no matter your current circumstances.
You always procrastinate: We all set goals we want to achieve within a certain time frame. Look back to the list of things you challenged yourself to achieve by the end of this year. Have you ticked some? Or did you always say, “I’ll attend to this later?” Leaving things to the last minute might make you lose many opportunities.
What to do: Discipline yourself. If you have exams around the corner, prepare ahead of time. If there is a deadline for a project at work you have to finish off or a business proposal you want to present, start early enough.
You always complain: Yes, life can present a bag of lemons but life can’t be that bad. Really, isn’t there at least one thing that you are grateful for?
What to do: Meditate. Ask yourself how you are contributing to the problems you are going through and what you can do about it. Importantly, ask for help when you need it.
You push people away: I am a loner by nature. I love my space and prefer books and movies to keep me company. But I have learned the importance of having people you can confide in and share your day with. Whether we like it or not we all need sincere people in our lives.
What to do: You don’t have to be a socialite. But allow your friends and family to be there for you, especially when you go through challenges.
What other self-sabotaging habits do people have?