Ending a relationship with someone you saw your future with has never been easy. This is our survival guide to survive a breakup
No matter how great or bad a relationship has been it’s a huge blow. And emotionally taxing. Getting over someone is not easy, especially if you were invested in the relationship. But, for your sake and happiness, you have to eventually move on and it takes time, a lot of junk food, boxes of tissue and your friends. This is our guide to getting through a break-up.
Cut ties with your ex: You will remember their numbers for months on end but not seeing them on your phone will make it less tempting for you to check their Whatsapp statuses or even calling them. Also, unfriend and unfollow them on all their social media platforms. It’s hard, we know, but it’s necessary for you to move on. If they ask you to remain friends and keep in contact, ask them to give you space until you are ready to be in contact with them- that’s if you want to.
Arm yourself with tissues, junk food and break up songs: If you need to, cry yourself to sleep and have a playlist of depressing, break up songs, especially of Taylor Swift which will be your lullaby. Oh, and treat yourself to a lot of ice cream.
Allow your friends to be there for you: Don’t push your friends or loved ones away, especially if they try to cheer you up. You might not feel like company but don’t dwell on negative feelings for a long time. Cry on their shoulders, sulk and travel down memory lane with them. Good friends will help you reflect on what you can learn from your previous relationship and help you get over your ex.
Distract yourself with other things: Before they came into the picture, you had a life. Take this opportunity to do things you enjoyed doing solo, or with your friends. Go out more, but without hoping to bump into them.
Take it as it comes: You will go through every emotion under the face of the sun. Don’t suppress those feelings but don’t allow yourself to dwell on negative feelings for a long time.
Reflect: It’s important to have an honest conversation with yourself about what really happened in the relationship. What did the previous relationship teach you about yourself and what lessons will you take and apply in the next relationship? Remember that life doesn’t wait for you to live in the past. Move on with time and make them regret losing you by being the best version of yourself.
Let it go: Allow yourself to let go of things that aren’t meant to be. Some people are meant to be in our lives for a certain season. When their time is up let them go and look forward to what the future holds.
How have you gotten over a breakup?