We all get drained by negative thoughts from time to time, but what set’s successful and happy people apart from the rest is their choice to deal with negative thoughts
Since life presents its ups and downs it’s normal to feel down from time to time. Expressing your feelings is an important part of dealing with them, especially when things go downhill. I express sad or negative emotions by calling friends who I know will cheer me up, I also write, cry and pray a lot. You need to be aware of everything that goes on in your mind; especially the internal voices that you hear inside you. Although one can’t block negative thoughts and feelings completely, successful and happy people use the following techniques to deal with and reduce them:
Be aware of your surroundings: Do you find your energy drained after interacting with some people or being in certain environments? Find ways of minimising, and if possible, blocking people and events that leave you feeling miserable.
Listen carefully: We become who we are by the habits we choose to develop. Being happy is a choice, and so is being miserable. Be aware of what you are continuously thinking and feeling, and try to find the root causes of why you are thinking that way. Try to keep a journal and write down what you are thinking throughout the day and events that lead to such thoughts. This will help you identify things in your life that you have to deal with, whether through self-discipline or with the help of experts.
Substitute: According to the laws of attraction, your subconscious mind obeys whatever it is your conscious mind is thinking and it finds ways of bringing circumstances and people that reflect your state of mind. If you keep telling yourself that you are not good enough, you are a failure or you always attract crappy intimate partners the universe will obey your thoughts and make sure you experience these negative events. Rather focus on the thoughts that make you feel good and things you want, instead of those that you don’t want. Instead of thinking, ‘don’t mess this job interview’ think ‘slay that job interview!’
Be grateful: No matter what you are going through someone else is facing bigger challenges. Research affirms that feeling grateful plays a big role in helping you feel positive and happy. On a spiritual level, we are taught that God meets us at the level of our expectation. This is also called faith. There is always something to be grateful for, if you think you can’t find it, you are alive and that alone makes you good enough and deserving of all the good that you desire. So next time you feel negative thoughts creeping in your mind, change them to positive thoughts and find something to be grateful for every day.
Don’t be hard on yourself: We have all failed in some or all areas of our lives, either your exams, that job interview for that job you badly wanted, that business deal you couldn’t seal or that relationship you couldn’t salvage. That is enough to bring you to a state of depression if you allow it. Don’t resist negative thoughts, deal with them with that bowl of ice cream, a box of tissues and friends to vent on but don’t dwell on those thoughts for long. If you feel you can’t deal with your negative thoughts and emotions, the root cause can be deeper. Seek counseling and reclaim the beautiful life (and thoughts) you deserve.
How do you deal with negative thoughts?