Having a positive self-esteem is a very important step that leads to the kind of life you want to live. We suggest five ways to boost yours today
Let’s face it, we live in a very competitive world that can sometimes make it difficult for us not to compare ourselves with our peers. The dawn of social media has exacerbated the pressure and expectations we put on ourselves to a point where our self-esteem is affected. Sometimes, things don’t go our way, from not getting that dream job to not closing a business deal you worked hard on. That alone can deflate our self-confidence. Since a good self-esteem is a habit it’s possible for everyone to develop it in order to attract the kind of life and people you want to be surrounded with. Here is how I believe you can do it:
Practice positive self-affirmation every day: Many roll their eyes on this suggestion because they often experienced the opposite of what they affirmed. Scientific research suggests that the brain cannot differentiate between what is real and what is fantasy hence we are told to envision and affirm what we want for ourselves, through the form of prayer or vision boards. The trick with positive self-affirmation is that you have to believe what you say because you won’t see the results you want if you claim a statement but don’t believe in it.
Behave in a way that you want to be treated: Ever heard of dress for success? Or Napoleon Hill’s ‘What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve’? You have to do at least one thing each day to be a step closer to your dreams. Dress for the position you want, carry your business cards and always have an elevator pitch prepared about your business or career aspirations, visualise the kind of partner you want and don’t settle way less than how you feel you deserve to be treated, surround yourself with positive and driven people. Oprah says it perfectly that luck is preparation meeting opportunity. Always anticipate and prepare for how you want your life to turn out.
Never compare yourself to others: Your life and journey is unique. Only you have the power to be who and what you want to be. Comparing yourself to others can really affect your self-esteem and make you resentful. If social media is the culprit of comparison I believe you have to at least unfollow people who make you feel like your life isn’t going anywhere.
Embrace failure: Rejection and failing can knock your confidence out. But the more you fail or get rejected the less painful it becomes and the more you want to prove yourself. So be outrageous in your dreams and knock on doors that seem impossible to get through. If you hear the word no, pat yourself on the back for trying. Imagine how great it would feel then for achieving what the world says is impossible to achieve? I’d rather say oops, than wonder how things would have turned out.
Be kind to yourself and to others: Being hard on yourself won’t do any justice. Be kind to yourself and embrace your flaws and your past mistakes and failures. A kind approach to life can make you empathetic and happier.
How do you boost your self-esteem?